my wife doesn't touch me sexually anymore my wife doesn't touch me sexually anymore

But my wife was not. Im in the same situation with my overweight, lazy, 48 year old wife. Spice up your appearance. Peace. Fun-loving, Honest and Straightforward. Ive always wanted sex more than she has, though the first years were pretty satisfying for both of us. What do you think a man can do and should do in these cases ??? Once you've looked at yourself, talk to her and pay attention to how she's feeling. A lot of people are martyrs when it comes to sex. She know eccatly what shes doing. I am fairly attractive and I. Our experts helped them improve their sex life by advising a bit more spontaneity. . I love him and am a bad lier, so using masturbation as a release. You definitely dont get it. I have done the majority of housework including doing the major role of raising our children from Pre school to leaving home. He does not have ED or any similar issue, wont see a therapist or talk about this, and he becomes angry and defensive if I bring up sex or hug him or show any affection. She doesnt even let me see her naked. I always ask if Im doing the right things and she says yes. . Having sex will actually help you physically and can add years to your life. If your wife never initiates sex, its time to bring out your inner charmer and start romancing your wife. If shes willing, find a therapist who will help you and your wife talk about this and really listen to each otherand if she wont go, go on your own. So not. You may be ok with the situation youve created.. thats one thing, but to act as though youre merely tolerating the situation as a martyr is pure BS. If the lack of interest in physical intimacy came on suddenly and caught you unawares, it is possible that your wife is involved with another person. In some cases, this can escalate intopostpartum depression, which is a common reason why many women experience a lack of sexual desire after childbirth. What to do about it: Learning to love your own body is a personal journey, so this isn't really something you can fix for her just by giving her compliments (though that can certainly help!). 18 months later I was told NO sex, by the way we had not had regular sex for near 15 years, and Sexless for near 10. Frustrated. Ive been reading a lot about this and not come across anyone with a solution apart from no proper sex or divorce. An underlying, undetectedmental health issue can affect sex drive. Thrown into menopause way too young. Thanks for listening. To me, hes practicing classic avoidance and he simply closes up emotionally. Remember what you felt, believed, and why. Feeling loved and getting affection, including sex is important to me. In fact, according to WebMD, there are multiple causes that will negatively affect the sexual desire in a woman. She is against the idea of therapy. mine forgot my birthday this year (it is 2 days before his lol) and our wedding anniversary : ( I can not compete with his online game omg he plays 24-7 so I can relate to your problem with your wife choosing the phone over you thats cold. Think of the biblical verse Ecclesiastes 3. I have been dedicated for 43 years but I also realize you need and one thing before you canOnto the other. She has just lost interest. We dont have children, and we have tried everything.therapy, books, scheduling sex, talking, crying, toys, porn. Subscribe now (do it here) and dont miss a single column. In long-term relationships, sex can be the fastest route for . If you notice your wife acting awkward or becoming extremely tense when you try to touch her, it means she is not liking the fact that you are being physical. 6. 60s, 70s. So to many they think Im faking it. Research shows that women who had a positive view of themselves reported higher levels of intimate encounters and arousal. My guess is shes been trying to rid herself of me for many years but wants me to be the one to leave so she can save face with friends and family. Thomas, I agree! Meanwhile. I am guilty of that. Be grateful you were able to find someone in life to love and be loved by, many of us take this for granted not realizing how many lonely people there are out there who were never as lucky as we have been. Take the good with the bad. It makes me sad, and we have talked it out and sadly there is just too much sadness and pain in our relationship for this situation to ever be resolved. Im 65, shes 70. Maddening! I told her that men my age generally took longer to orgasm and for sex to be mutually enjoyable, we both needed to have pleasure. If you two feel more like roommates than romantic partners, sex may just feel awkward or unappealing. So, get your act together, start showering in the evenings, put on some cologne for her and, most importantly, keep things well groomed and hygienic down there. Better than NO sex of any sort for 10+ years, and being rediculed for masturbating. We celebrate the happy, imperfect love without judgment or bias, and strive to help people love more mindfully by viewing their relationship patterns from the lens of mental health and psychology. If given the opportunity I would be all over inside and outside the house, flirting and not taking my hand off that booty. What to do about it: "You need to take the stress out of sex in three steps: Challenge your expectations, communicate effectively with your partner, and take the pressure off by using new physical experiences," Zimmerman advises. Didnt mean to lump all this on You but your comment triggered something. It could mean that your wife is experiencing changes in her mental health or there is an unresolved issue in your relationship. Men my advice is dont get married or move in with women if you love sex. Agree Sean. Tried all the hormones, the therapy, the talks, and yes, even the threats of stepping out if things dont improve. 20yrs old. We had an active sex life and I miss the physical part of our lives. Many marriages are suffering in this area, and even the strongest and most supportive husbands feel isolated from their wives. During the first twenty- five years of our marriage we were both church goers and sent our son to Catholic schools, but we both now feel that religion doeset always have all the answers. Im 15 years younger than my husband. Now masturbation does not work so well. An undiagnosed, underlying medical condition can also be the reason for a decreased sex drive. 10. He doesbt accept the limitations of my back injury. My wife and I have been married 20 years. Not easy for her to open up and talk about thingsbeen that way all of our married lives..43 plus years. Instead of focusing on harmful sentiments like, What to do when wife wont put out? try to work on the issues you two are having. She has very little interest in penetration. Even before this, she told me she does not want to nor have any desire for sex or intimacy with me or anyone. Too bad; I truly live him but I dont need the stress. Accept her no lovingly, masturbate, and initiate again another day. Hope your marriage will last till you die you depart. Even too much Viagra can cause things like blindness. 7. This sounds exactly like my situation although I am the husband. 17) She doesn't try to make you feel better anymore. Thank you, Harry. . At 45 years old I met this man When the support isnt there, the emotional intimacy and the physical intimacy are going to suffer. The Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health. If the husband happens to be insensitive, it ruins the relationship. // Replace PAGE_URL with your page's canonical URL variable and hugs when one of us leaves the house. Most of my female friends in their sixties are married to men who just stopped having sex, wanting sex, initiating sex or any kind of intimacy. Weve been married for 27 years and have 3 adult children. This really sucks. Most importantly, talk to her about it! By the way, I love, desire, and adore my husband, but I recognize I will never have my needs met after almost 50 years. Being in a sexless marriage is great, we havent had sex, intimacy togetherness for 40 years. Quit excusing inexcusable behaviors by your partners. there is NO physical connection PLUS no sex. He masterbates quite often and I have come home to find him watching porn on the couch and masterbating. She claims to always be tired anyway. I am partly replying and partly commenting on the many very earnest and difficult sexless relationships discussed here. While some of the underlying factors can be weeded out with the right approach and mindset, others can be more damaging to the entire relationship. I own real estate property with my sister which provides some income. I love her. We have no children. I demonstrate my love for her in so many ways, little notes, letters, flowers messages in song, other women including young women I work with say they would love to have someone who loves and respects their partner and relationship like I do. Sigh . I suggested just me doing him and he close his eyes and touch me nope. In fact, I recently read that most sexless marriages are due to lack of desire in the men. We dont really argue and enjoy each others company. The night my son died was when my loss of interest began, in fact it vanished, period. I spoil her all the time. Sigh I dont even want to see anyone else. But I have stayed true to her for our entire marriage . I wish we were closer because I would love to meet you. Are you in a similar place in your relationship? he is very persistent. He got the pill from the dr, but with his weight and age, I was just too scared for him to try it. Thats what hurts me is the constant rejection. Frankly Im tired of people pushing to try Testosterone replacement again. While women understand that, men refuse to comprehend that arousal is complex for women. Perhaps there's a desire discrepancy between you, whether in general or just at this particular time in your lives, and you're both very aware of it. 9. Now its Im sore there. But I still feel that my wife is my one and only best friend and while I may be frustrated , I will always hold that more dear than anything else. 5 minutes of his time now and again isnt much to ask! I like to think there is hope but unsure. Once you cross into the no sex zone there is NO going back. I understand that some people accept this type of relationship and just crave a good friend and companion for the rest of their life. At age 69, were certainly way beyond the procreation stage. I also think they pretend to be happy. I love him and want to please him even if I feel nothing or just help him reach release. Talk with your husband about sexual fantasies he has or things he may want to try in the bedroom. Im over 60 and Im learning to accept this is the way life is going to be for the rest of my life. She needs emotional connectivity even without the expectation of sex, just because it is kind. Hmmm. Married 50years and our sex life never really got going. For many of us who have exhausted talking to our partners, asking to have their normal needs met, to be loved and shown love and to be valued and desired but have been met with silence, stares, okay, not interested, I am not in the mood or sleeping in separate rooms, your partner has betrayed your trust and your marriage with emotional and sexual blackmail. I have joint custody with my ex. So the time has come to find a willing older gal and have an affair and feel alive and like a man again 7 years no sex!!! Peter: she wouldnt interest you shes like me now old, cranky, take pills and fat. Masturbation in the case of a marriage where one party is no longer interested in having sex and actively resists any overtures along those lines would seem to be the logical course of action.